Sample of Non-Religeous Ceremony

 

______________AND______________, WE ARE HERE TO CELEBRATE YOUR MARRIAGE. ON THIS DAY YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO AFFIRM YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER WITH SPOKEN WORDS, AND WITH THE SHARING OF SYMBOLS.

(OPTIONAL) MAY I ASK WHO GIVES THIS BRIDE TO THIS GROOM?

(VERSE BY THE SEA):

MARRIAGE IS A COMMITMENT TO LIFE... TO THE BEST THAT TWO PEOPLE CAN FIND AND BRING OUT IN EACH OTHER. IT OFFERS OPPORTUNITIES FOR SHARING AND GROWTH NO OTHER HUMAN RELATIONSHIP CAN EQUAL, A PHYSICAL AND AN EMOTIONAL JOINING THAT IS PROMISED FOR A LIFETIME.

WITHIN THE CIRCLE OF IT'S LOVE, MARRIAGE ENCOMPASSES ALL OF LIFE'S MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIPS. A WIFE AND A HUSBAND ARE EACH OTHER'S BEST FRIEND, CONFIDANT, LOVER, TEACHER AND LISTENER. THERE MAY COME TIMES WHEN ONE PARTNER IS HEARTBROKEN OR AILING, AND THE LOVE OF THE OTHER BRINGS HEALING AND A STEADFASTNESS OF A STURDY FOUNDATION THAT ALLOWS THE MARRIAGE
COVENANT TO BE ESTABLISHED.

MARRIAGE DEEPENS AND ENRICHES EVERY FACET OF LIFE. HAPPINESS IS FULLER; MEMORIES ARE FRESHER; COMMITMENT IS STRONGER. MARRIAGE UNDERSTANDS AND FORGIVES THE MISTAKES LIFE IS UNABLE TO AVOID, AND YET IT ENCOURAGES AND NURTURES NEW LIFE, NEW EXPERIENCES; NEW WAYS OF EXPRESSING LOVE THROUGH THE SEASONS OF LIFE.

WHEN TWO PEOPLE PLEDGE TO LOVE AND CARE FOR EACH OTHER IN MARRIAGE, THEY SEEM TO CREATE A SPIRIT UNIQUE TO THEMSELVES, WHICH BINDS THEM CLOSER THAN ANY SPOKEN OR WRITTEN WORDS. MARRIAGE IS A PROMISE, MADE IN THE HEARTS OF TWO PEOPLE WHO LOVE EACH OTHER, AND THIS TAKES A LIFETIME TO FULFILL.

(ALOHA TO YOU BOTH. WELCOME TO OUR ISLAND)

(SHARING OF LEIS):


IN HAWAII WE HAVE A CUSTOM OF EXCHANGING LEIS. THE LEI IS A SYMBOL OF EMBRACING ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE. IT WAS ORIGINALLY CREATED AS A MEANS OF BRINGING HEALING HERBS AND FLOWERS FROM THE MOUNTAINS TO VILLAGES ON THE SEA. OVER THE PASSAGE OF TIME THIS RING OF BEAUTIFUL FLOWERS HAS COME TO SYMBOLIZE AFFECTION AND RESPECT BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE. IN HAWAIIAN TRADITION,THE HEAD AND SHOULDERS OF AN INDIVIDUAL ARE CONSIDERED TO BE SACRED. THEREFORE, THE PLACING OF THE LEI IS AN EXPRESSION OF GREAT HONOR TOWARD THE ONE TO WHOM THE LEI IS GIVEN.

GROOM: ACCEPT THIS LEI AS AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF MY AFFECTION, RESPECT AND ADORATION FOR YOU. MAY IT SYMBOLIZE MY ONGOING AND EVERLASTING LOVE.

__________________, WILL YOU NOW PLACE YOUR LEI ON _________________ AND KISS HER ON BOTH CHEEKS IN THE HAWAIIAN TRADITION.

BRIDE: ACCEPT THIS LEI AS AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF MY AFFECTION, RESPECT AND ADORATION FOR YOU. MAY IT SYMBOLIZE MY ONGOING AND EVERLASTING LOVE.

__________________, WILL YOU NOW PLACE YOUR LEI ON _________________ AND KISS HIM ON BOTH CHEEKS IN THE HAWAIIAN TRADITION.

 

(DECLARATION OF INTENTION):

____________, DO YOU WISH FOR ______________, TO BE KNOWN AS YOUR WIFE? IF SO, PLEASE SAY, "I DO".

____________, DO YOU WISH FOR ______________, TO BE KNOWN AS YOUR HUSBAND? IF SO, PLEASE SAY, "I DO".

____________ AND _____________, DO YOU PROMISE TO LET YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER GROW, AS IT WILL; AS IT MUST, SO THAT IN THE YEARS TO COME, YOU WILL RENEW YOUR ACCEPTANCE, YOUR UNDERSTANDING AND YOUR TRUST OF ONE ANOTHER? IF SO, PLEASE SAY "WE PROMISE".

(MARRIAGE VOWS. BRIDE AND GROOM REPEAT AFTER MINISTER):

I _____________, TAKE YOU ______________, TO BE MY WIFE. I PROMISE TO LOVE YOU, ONLY YOU; AND CHERISH YOU. I WILL BE A COMPANION TO YOU. I WILL SHARE MY STRENGTHS AND MY ACHIEVEMENTS; I PROMISE TO RESPECT YOU AND BE A FRIEND TO YOU. FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE, FOR RICHER OR FOR POORER, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, AS LONG AS WE BOTH SHALL LIVE.

I ______________, TAKE YOU ______________, TO BE MY HUSBAND. I PROMISE TO LOVE YOU, ONLY YOU; AND CHERISH YOU. I WILL BE A COMPANION TO YOU. I WILL SHARE MY STRENGTHS AND MY ACHIEVEMENTS. I PROMISE TO RESPECT YOU AND BE A FRIEND TO YOU. FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE, FOR RICHER OR FOR POORER; IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, AS LONG AS WE BOTH SHALL LIVE.

RING CEREMONY:

THE WEDDING RINGS ARE A SYMBOL OF LONGEVITY IN THE MARRIAGE COVENANT. THE CIRCLE OF THE RING SYMBOLIZES A NEVER ENDING CIRCLE OF LOVE AND COMMITMENT THAT YOU ARE MAKING. EACH DAY THAT YOU ARE TOGETHER, AND EACH TIME YOU LOOK AT THE BEAUTY OF THESE RINGS, REMEMBER THE LOVE THAT YOU HAVE FOR EACH OTHER; IS FOREVER.

____________, REPEAT AFTER ME YOUR RING CEREMONY):
____________, I GIVE THIS RING TO YOU AS A SIGN OF MY LOVE.
I GIVE MYSELF TO YOU TO BE YOUR HUSBAND
FROM THIS DAY FORWARD, YOU SHALL NOT WALK ALONE.
I FEEL SO HONORED TO HAVE YOU AS MY WIFE.
I VOW TO LOVE AND SUSTAIN YOU
IN THE COVENANT OF OUR MARRIAGE
FOR AS LONG AS WE BOTH SHALL LIVE.

____________, REPEAT AFTER ME YOUR RING CEREMONY):
____________, I GIVE THIS RING TO YOU AS A SIGN OF MY LOVE.
I GIVE MYSELF TO YOU TO BE YOUR WIFE
FROM THIS DAY FORWARD, YOU SHALL NOT WALK ALONE.
I FEEL SO HONORED TO HAVE YOU AS MY HUSBAND.
I VOW TO LOVE AND SUSTAIN YOU,
IN THE COVENANT OF OUR MARRIAGE
FOR AS LONG AS WE BOTH SHALL LIVE.

(PRONOUNCEMENT):
WE HAVE BEEN WITNESSES TO THIS SPECIAL DAY. THEREFORE, I AND THOSE OF US WHO ARE HERE WITH YOU RECOGNIZE THAT YOU HAVE BECOME HUSBAND AND WIFE. THEREFORE WE AND ALL OF YOUR FAMILIES AND YOUR FRIENDS SHALL HONOR YOU AS THE SAME FROM THIS DAY FORWARD.

(BENEDICTION):
____________ AND ____________, REMEMBER THIS BEAUTIFUL DAY HERE IN MAUI, WITH JOY AND THANKSGIVING, AND MAY YOU LOVE TO LIVE, AND LIVE TO LOVE.
NOW BY THE POWER GIVEN UNTO ME BY THE LAWS OF THIS STATE; I NOW PRONOUNCE THAT YOU ARE HUSBAND AND WIFE! YOU MAY KISS YOUR BRIDE!

IN HAWAIIAN, HONI KA WAA MEANS DO IT AGAIN!

AND NOW MAY I PRESENT TO YOU AS HUSBAND AND WIFE, MR. AND MRS.__________ AND __________ ____________!

ALOHA E! ALOHA E! ALOHA E!


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